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WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO
IMPROVE YOUR SELF ?
Sometimes, when all
our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always
come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often
than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people
are better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are
more scared than us.
You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a
party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to
yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you
could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of
clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s
thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?...
Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they
look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”
We look at a young
business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?”
He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate
my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom
and dad would still work things out.”
Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so
outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them,
while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are
insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We
suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope
in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.
Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like
biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of
all people, is the last to know.
I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most
conversations, she is the only one who seems to be interested in
the things she has to say. So all of our other friends tend to
avoid the circles whenever she’s around, and she doesn’t notices
how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting
the people in her environment.
One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted
friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even
the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do
you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so
argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”,
“Do I ever bore you when were together?”.
In this way, the other
person will obviously know that you are interested in the process
of self improvement. Lend her your ears for comments and
criticisms and don’t give her answers like “Don’t exaggerate!
That’s just the way I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well.
And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive
criticism that will also help her improve her self.
One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is
the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others,
you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do
not have.
Before telling other people some ways on how to improve
themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and
a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better
people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the
world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the
repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was
thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to
self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others
only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy
them.
We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we
had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But
life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about
themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter
of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are
the best.
It’s the virtue of acceptance
and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin
to feel contented and happy. |
