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So how do you
stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough
environment? Here are some tips you may consider as a starter
guide to self improvement.
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Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else
around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These
dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways
you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the
best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting
just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually
thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss
lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to
work too much without getting help from people concerned. Stay out
of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake
anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy
competition that is.
Dart Pin #2:
Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners,
backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers,
naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these
kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well
as to your self improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge
our paradigms. It tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters
the way we think. Changes will make life difficult for awhile, it
may cause stress but it will help us find ways to improve our
selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible to
it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But
don’t let pain transform itself into fear. It might grab you by
the tail and swing you around. Treat each failure and mistake as a
lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with
all the negativities of the world. In building self esteem, we
must learn how to make the best out of worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a
mixed end product of your inherited traits
(genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and
your environmental surroundings such as
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the
company, the economy or your circle of
friends. You have your own identity. If your
father is a failure, it doesn’t mean you have
to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s
experience, so you’ll never have to encounter
the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders
or positive thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is
a choice. Building self esteem and drawing lines for self
improvement is a choice, not a rule or a talent. God wouldn’t come
down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now have the
permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”
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In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people
around you keep pulling you down. When we get to the battle field,
we should choose the right luggage to bring and armors to use, and
pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s options give us arrays of
more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and bruised. And
wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind
of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self
Change changes 3 things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of
thinking.
Building self esteem will eventually
lead to self improvement if we start
to become responsible for who we
are, what we have and what we do.
Its like a flame that should
gradually spread like a brush fire
from inside and out. When we develop
self esteem, we take control of our
mission, values and discipline. Self
esteem brings about self
improvement, true assessment, and
determination. So how do you start
putting up the building blocks of
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