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to be
able to discover ways on how to improve your
repertoire to recover from our mistakes. Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are
contented with the job you have, the way you look, with your
family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the
things you now have – truly, you know the answer to the question
“how to be genuinely happy.”
When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small
start will eventually lead to something else, and to something
else. But if you keep questioning life lit it has never done you
any good, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.
I believe that life is about finding out about right and wrong,
trying and failing, wining and losing. These are things that
happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s
life has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should
not hinder us from becoming happy.
How to be genuinely happy in spite all these? I tell you… every
time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your
being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend,
taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams and trying
again, life gives you equivalent points for that.
Imagine life as a big score board like those which are used in the
NFLs. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points.
Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game
and think to yourself “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave
it a shot.”, instead of looking at it all blank and murmur “Geez,
I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out.
We could have won!” and then walk away.
Genuine happiness
isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the
employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th month pay, or
beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes
in life doesn’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the
bravest or not even the best. So, how do you become genuinely
happy? Every one has his own definition of ‘happiness’. Happiness
for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as
possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the
rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of
money. Happiness for a business man may mean success. So, really
now, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. You don’t have to
have the best things in this world. Its about doing and making the
best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at
your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next
time”, you carry with you a flame of strong will power to
persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a
willingness to stand up again and try – that will make you a
genuinely happy person.
When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass
step 1 in the project “how to become genuinely happy”. For as long
as you know how to accept others, you will also be accepted. For
as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love
ten folds back.
Again, throw me that same question “how to become genuinely
happy?”. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who strongly quoted-
“Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s
aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of
laughter is laughter over self. Coz then you don’t just become
happy… you become free.” |
